Have you ever wondered what your attachment style is? or what on earth is an attachment style? what is considered a healthy attachment style? Is it healthy to be attached to anyone?
Do this quiz to show you your attachment style and remember there is no wrong or right style it is about knowing who you are.
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If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, contact the following crisis services: Emergency 000 Lifeline 13 11 14 Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800 MensLine 1300 78 99 78 Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467
If you have feelings of wanting to self-harm or kill yourself, call Lifeline on 13 11 14. If you think someone’s safety is at risk, call triple zero (000) immediately.
In Australia, suicide is the leading cause of death in men and women under the age of 45 – eight people take their own lives every day. For every suicide, there are tragic ripple effects for friends, families, colleagues and the broader community.
8.6 Australians die every day by suicide. That’s more than double the road toll
Thoughts and behaviors,
Most people who contemplate suicide are looking for an end to psychological pain, not to die. It can be helpful to conceptualise this as the three I’s, summarising how the person sees their emotional pain and mental distress they want to escape from:
Intolerable – the pain is unbearable
Inescapable – no other way out
Interminable – no end in sight
Have a Safety Plan
Your plan is personal to you and includes steps to help you:
know your warning signs,
make your environment safe
distract yourself with activities you can do or people you can be with
remember things that make you feel strong
You can create your plan by yourself, or you can ask someone for help.
Some of the assumptions that shape our attitudes and beliefs about suicide may
be incorrect. Study the table below. How many of the myths about suicide are
you holding as true?
People who attempt suicide want to die
People who attempt suicide are often confused about whether they want to live or die. They are often looking at suicide as a way to end unbearable emotional distress
People who talk about suicide are just attention-seekers
Many people who attempt or complete suicide have spoken to someone about their intentions. This talk is a cry for help and should be taken seriously.
Talking about suicide may give the person the idea to complete suicide
Raising concerns directly can help the person to feel supported and valued.
Once a person is intent on harming themselves they can’t be stopped
Suicide is preventable. If people receive the support they need they are less likely to attempt suicide.
All people who attempt suicide are depressed
Not everyone who attempts suicide is depressed Suicide attempts are rarely repeated
A prior suicide attempt is considered a risk factor for further harm.
A large number of people who attempt suicide will attempt suicide again
Real Christians do not experience suicidal thoughts
Christians become depressed. Psalm 102 depicts someone struggling with symptoms consistent with depression. Elsewhere in Scripture, we read about the despondency of Rebekah (Gen 27:46); Rachel (Gen 30:1); Job (Job 3:24) and Jeremiah (Jer 20:18). The Old Testament records people with a close relationship to God who wished for death (Job 3:20-22; 7:15-16; Num 11:15; 1 Kings 19:4; Jon 4:8).
Prayer is all a Christian needs – just pray harder
Healing requires prayer, but prayer is sometimes not all that goes into healing. There are two reasons why sometimes prayer is not enough: (1) God is not in the business of eliminating our suffering; ans (2) while our soul needs healing through prayer, our body might also need healing through medical or psychological interventions, which take time (Mason, 2014).
Depressed people should just ‘buck up’
A mental health problem is a common risk factor for suicide, and depression is the most common disorder associated with suicide. People who are depressed cannot snap out of it. If they could, they would.
Sudden changes in a person’s usual pattern of relating to others
Disinterest in the future
Significant personal changes (absence from work or poor work performance apathy about appearance/dress, etc.)
Changes that suggest depression or other mental health problems
Self-harm and suicide attempt/s (self-mutilation, such as cigarette burns and cutting oneself)
Impulsive and risk-taking behaviour
Making final arrangements(making will, giving away possessions, saying goodbye)
Direct or indirect expressions about wanting to die (‘I wish I were dead’; ‘I’d like to go to sleep and never wake up’)
Consistently high levels of anxiety and anger; preoccupied with thoughts of death and dying
Threatening to hurt or kill themselves
Struggling with a sense of hopelessness
Having problems with rage, anger, or seeking revenge
Engaging in risky activities
Feeling trapped, like there is no way out
Using drugs or alcohol to smother the feelings of hopelessness
Withdrawing from family and friends
Troubled with anxiety, agitation, inability to sleep or excessive sleep
Subject to dramatic mood changes
Having no reason for living or purpose in life
Any suicidal thought or act of deliberate self-harm points to significant distress for the person. It also poses a potential risk of injury or death and as such should be taken seriously, especially when working with people with a mental illness, as these individuals are at greater risk of suicide than the general population
CRISIS SUPPORT NUMBERS
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, contact the following crisis services:
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, contact the following crisis services: Emergency 000 Lifeline 13 11 14 Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800 MensLine 1300 78 99 78 Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467
